Sister to little Sister

I had an eye-opening experience with my boyfriend's little sister that just completely blew my mind. We were getting dressed and preparing to go to Kemah for the day, and I was dressing in peach accessories, turquoise skinny jeans, and a flowy white blouse. She came into the room where I was getting dressed and was like "I'm going to wear what you're wearing!", and for a second I didn't think she ...was serious, but as I walked out of the room, &saw that she changed the outfit that she had originally planned to wear into an outfit with identical colors and top and bottom that matched mine,! |

Now for a second, anyone would be like,..hmmm,, why is she being a "copy-cat", "jocking your style" or say that "she's being annoying" or whatever anyone would normally claim, but God showed something to me much more fulfilling!

He allowed me to see that as women, especially in the Body of Christ, we DO set the example for other young girls to follow whether we know it or not. Even when we don't recognize it, your little sister, cousin, or niece is watching your every move! If you flip your hair, they'll flip their hair, if you walk a certain way, they'll walk that way, if you cuss, they'll start to cuss, if you wear a bra with a jacket over it that's not covering anything, they will do the same, if you are wearing makeup, they'll want to wear it too, if they see you drunk and smoking weed, they will want to do it too, if they see you talking and having sex with various men they will do it too, if they see you sneaking out of the house, guess what? THEY WILL DO THE SAME! This is wayyy serious then we perceive it to be Sisters', simply because WE are the ones that will be held accountable for their actions, mistakes, and how they live their life! 

Who's really the blame?

Would you want your little sister to imitate celebrities like Nicki Minja, Beyonce, or Lady Gaga? Or would you rather her follow the example of a Woman of God whom is clothed with dignity and strength in the Lord that is around her all the time?


They want someone to look up to and to imitate,! Meaning that if you walk out of the house with a short skirt and a halter top that are exposing your upper womanly possessions, these young girls will find it acceptable and will begin to imitate this behavior! (So you can't blame this next generation of young women for their appearance because WE set the standard NOW!) Too many times have we (including myself) seen and said "OOOHHH LORD THESE YOUNG GIRLS ARE JUST OUT OF CONTROL, they are having sex, wearing club attire to the playground, and doing God knows what things that they are toooo young to do!"

BUT in all honesty, WE OURSELVES ARE THE ONES TO BLAME!

We as women of God have to be more mindful about how we present ourselves to not only the world, but to our little baby girls who are wanting to be like you!!

My Sister,
Are you leading by example through following the Word of God in Titus 2:7,8?
Titus 2:7, 8

In everything set them an example, by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.

Remember the time when you tried to walk in your mother's hills as a little girl? Well, this is the same situation! These girls are trying to take a step in your shoes, but are your shoes even worthy to be filled with their feet? Will they get stained with an image that is not pleasing to the Father that you may have portrayed before them? Are you setting the example? Don't blame them for their explicit wordrobe if you don't have it all together!! #ImageCheck #TurnHeartsNotHeads

P.S. Sisters, please support my in this ministry as I strive to encourage young women to become clothed with dignity and strength by avoiding the ambition to Turn Hearts and Not Heads. To support Like and share this page. www.facebook.com/TurnHeartsNotHeads  This ministry is to encourage young women to shift their focus back to the Father by allowing their inner beauty to shine and prevent them from being consumed by their outer appearance. It is to help establish and guide young women to be one with Christ by being modest in their appearance and not allowing our exterior to consume them. It is also to encourage them that they can still be beautiful modestly with fashion and style!

It is to say that as women we can still be a a show-stopper, however, allowing our inner beauty to be brought to center stage. We can be women who dresses modestly in the most up to-date fashions yet, still setting the example for other young women to follow! However, by not letting their jewels, nice garments, or our outer appearance consume us and become an idol in their life. By being obedient to the Word of God, it will reflect a heart that is submitted to Him and a desire to dress “to the glory of God!” And also by not using these things as a mechanism to attract and distract the eyes of man!

Don't overindulge yourselves with these fading items. Everything in moderation! It is not unscriptural for a woman to want to be attractive. Today, however, to what degree should us women take this advice about fixing our hair or wearing gold, pearls, or expensive clothes? Remember that beauty begins on the inside. A carefully groomed and well-decorated exterior is artificial and cold unless inner beauty is present. Modesty is Power!

#ImageCheck Part 2

But what if it's the other way around, no one is blowing up your inbox and no one is hitting on you, no male interaction at all????

That's even better!
Because it shouldn't be your focus. I exposed my experience in #ImageCheck Part 1 hoping that someone would be able to relate. However, in this case, that only means that God has someone special for you. The ONE that God has ordained for your life will find you, but He can't find you if the light isn't increasing on the inside of you. In order for that special guy to find you, you have to give him something that will be a guide for him to find you! As you grow closer to God, God will allow your husband to grow closer to you. And with Jesus being the light of the world, (once you've established yourself in and with the Lord) "the light" being Jesus will increase it's intensity in you and will allow that "main man" to pursue you in becoming his wife! 

Think about an open flame in the dark that cannot be let out, it will allow you to see where you are and keep you from being blind in the dark. To keep your future husband from being blinded, which won't allow him to see you, get closer to the Father, make Him your Husband, and get prepared to be the best wife that you can be not only to God, but to your husband!:) He can't see you if you have nothing to guide him with. When you become a woman who is pure, who needs Jesus before man, a woman who can establish herself in the Lord, a woman who's main focus IS THE LORD, a woman with the power to heal, to set free those in bondage, a woman who sees herself as beautiful, a woman who has confidence in the Lord that she can do ALL things through Christ Jesus, a woman who is dedicated to the Kingdom, a woman who has set an example for others to follow, a woman who is GLOWING and has become the Guiding Light Of the World (G.L.O.W), a woman who knows she can make it with Jesus by her side, a woman with substance, pure, and Holy before the Lord, THEN HE WILL BE ABLE TO SEE YOU! How so? Because being a woman like this allows you to stand out from the rest, you have not become conformed by the worldly perception of what a woman should be, and simply because God will tell him when you are ready and then He will allow the veil to come over your face to be exposed by the one He created for you and ONLY YOU to be with!:) And yes, God created a man specifically for you! You will know he is the one not only because God will tell you, but by his appreciation,  love, admiration, and devotion for everything about you, even your flaws and at your worst moments. This man will be truthful, will walk with you hand in hand through every trial, every mistake, every fault. He will think you're beautiful when you feel like you're looking busted and disgusted and when you're looking like a woman on the cover of a magazine! YES! &He will be the one when you can "pass gas" and he won't think any less of you. (may be weird  but true) He will be the one who will understand you when you're on your menstrual cycle. He will be the missing piece to your puzzle, he will cherish you and serve you as God has instructed him to do. 

Ephesians 5: 25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her..


He will be the one that will grab you by the hand and say "baby, let's work this out", or "baby, let's pray about it", and of course "BABY, LET'S GET MARRIED!":)


But if your focus is so caught on locating where he is, or why guys aren't approaching you, or why you haven't gotten any attention you have to analyze where your focus is, is it penetrated on keeping tabs on if guys will hit on you or not, or is it on the Father whom will build you up so that your husband will find you? I remember my freshman year, the Lord had me in this season of separation, and when I tell you, NO ONE tried to hit on me, NO ONE at all, I began to think I was ugly, and really beat myself up about it because all of my friends were getting hit on and I was getting looked over! But as I got closer to the Lord, He began to show me that I don't need man's approval or any messages, or a guy to ask me out to confirm that I'm beautiful ! He says that there is no flaw in you and that you're fearfully and wonderfully created, in HIS IMAGE:) He wanted me to see that He was the one that I needed to find my true beauty,! 

In that time of separation He prepared me for "The One".... 

He taught me how to be a Proverbs 31 woman, He taught me how to love myself and Him before man. He enabled me to have a deeper understanding of Him and His word, I gained wisdom, and more knowledge! He is my teacher and I was the student preparing for a test. My love for Him increased like never before and He continued to love me dearly. The love that I have for Him became the love that I should have for my husband. He showed me who I am in Him and who He has created me to be in His Kingdom. He exposed me to my flaws and cleansed me from my sins. He delivered me from my past hurt and patched up any wounds that were left from past relationships. He set me free from my iniquities and made me as white as snow. And I then began to see the white dress because spiritually, I was clothed in it by becoming pure! He took away all soul ties so that I may be made for only one man that was to be my husband. He became my best friend  my lover, my Father, "THE" One for me until I became ready for "the one" that He ordained for me! 

He told me that my husband will find me and that I don't have to go searching...
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.
(NOT "SHE WHO FINDS HERSELF A HUSBAND!) Think about it, your husband has to work for you, he has to go through the storm, rain, sleet, and snow to find you. We're ladies, so do you really want to go through all of that? Because God clearly has freed you from that!!:p 

AND NOT ONLY THAT! 
He also told me that many guys were intimidated by me, because I became a strong woman in the Lord, unapproachable, because they felt like they weren't worthy. This could very be where you are, because many guys are afraid of rejection, their afraid to approach such a beautiful spirit and a beautiful woman of God such as yourself, their intimidated by the light so much that they don't know how to approach you!:) Find peace in the Lord in this situation and allow Him to be transformed into the amazing woman of God that you already are!:) 

Ever felt like you saw your life flash right before your eyes, and then you're 24, not married, single and yet everyone around you is getting married and having babies?
It's like your cousin just got married, your best friend is getting married tomorrow, your mama just got engaged for the second time around and your enemy just started dating again. Did it start making you feel old, left out and lonely?

YOU'RE NOT ALONE! THERE ARE PLENTY OTHER WOMEN THAT CAN RELATE!

But if you really think about it, you're already married, (well, you're supposed to be) because right now in this time, at this very moment, whenever you started feeling this way... God wants you to Himself! You should already have a ring on your finger declaring that you're married to Him in this season, and until you see that, He will then release your Husband to find you. The Lord said Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and He will give you the desires of your heart, but you must kill your flesh and ask the Lord for the Holy Spirit to rise up and overwhelm you so that your flesh has no room to intervene with what God is trying to do with you in this season!:) God knows what you desire to have and He also knows what you need, but He won't give you what you need and want until you give Him what He wants from you! And that's YOU! He wants you to stay focused on Him and make Him the Man of your life! Because unlike any regular man, He will NEVER fail you, NEVER hurt you, and He also promised that He will NEVER leave you nor forsake you!

 You should never feel lonely because God is right by your side,! I have been where you are, but I am here to tell you that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you, and you can make it through this time of separation! But don't allow yourself to remain stagnant in this season, you have to focus on Him, don't lose sight, and never get distracted,! After you stand strong in this, you will begin to see God opening doors for you,! And eventually He will bless you with the desires of your heart:) i.e YOUR HUSBAND *winkwink ;)

Ask yourself and be honest, 
Do you think that if you were to meet your husband today, would you be suitable for him? Do you really believe that you're spiritually, emotionally, physically ready for him? Do you feel that where you are now as dirty, unclean, impure, and yet still in the world is what your husband needs? Do you think that he deserves that? Because if you love him the way you ought to be, would you give him your scraps or will you be developed into the amazing woman of God that he truly deserves? Do you want him to be with someone who is still battling with past hurt that will eventually tear your future relationship apart? Do you want him to be with someone who is still having trust issues that are more likely to damage a marriage? Don't you think he deserves a woman that can cook, clean, and is likely to take care of a home, herself, along with the kids? (Proverbs 31) Do you think he deserves a woman who have had a past of promiscuity and still hasn't been set free from the soul ties? Don't you think he needs a woman who has started over in the Lord? Who do you think he deserves? Do you think your husband deserves a woman in the world or someone who has been cleansed and made pure and holy before the Lord? Save yourself before your marriage has to be saved! Just like you're preparing for Jesus's next coming, you have to be prepared for your husband's big arrival. And God isn't going to release him until you have your duckies in a row! Simply because your husband is God's child as well, so God is only looking out for your husband and protecting from any woman who could potentially be a threat to his life and walk in the Lord. If you love him, you would get it right so that you can be made a precious gift rather than a curse!!!

Remember, God is madly in love with you
love you-
tay:)

#ImageCheck Part 1

Ever wondered why so many guys are blowing up your inbox or phone, hitting on you, or trying to talk to you? Have you even tried to ask God if you've been fully delivered from your promiscuous past and if so, still asking why you're being bothered by young men in&out of the Body of Christ? Have you ever looked forward to receiving tons of text messages, Facebook messages, or tweets from thirsty guys? (when in all reality they just want you for sex) Have you ever enjoyed the attention of an over excessive amount of men wanting to "get to know" you? But what if it's the other way around, when no one is blowing up your inbox and no one is hitting on you, no male interaction at all????

#IMAGECHECK

How are you presenting yourself ladies? And as one of my sister's in Christ spoke about, What kind of sign do you have on your store? Is it telling men that you are easy, trashy, and down for "anything"? Or is it telling men that you are a woman of class, morals  and standards that abide by the Word of the Living God? In other words, how are you advertising your "products" or "assets"? 

1 Corinthians 6: 19-20 MSG

Didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.

Are your pictures portraying a seductive, sexual, lustful woman? In other words, is your image, the image of a woman that was described as a "Delilah", one whom used her attractive looks to manipulate Samson? Or is it the portrayal of a Jezebel, one whom has the same intentions of a "Delilah" along with carrying the whereabouts to seduce to get what she wanted? Because even if you're not these things, you can still be viewed this way based on your initial presentation.

Now I know some of you may love the attention, you're probably eating it up! And you also may say "what woman doesn't like the attention?" However, we have to take a step back and #check our motives and intentions for doing the things that we do, analyze why we do them, look at the audience that we are inviting while doing these things, and along with that, interpret why they've become your audience! You don't need 300 text messages or Facebook and Twitter inbox messages to justify your beauty. In the same way, it shouldn't be used as a mechanism to "boost your confidence". The Lord has already expressed that you are "fearfully and wonderfully created", so why do you need man to confirm that?   

Genesis 1:27 

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

With this scripture in mind, have you been presenting yourself with a positive image that brings glory and honor to the Father who says that you were made in HIS image? Or are you representing something else that degrades His image? If someone was to write a book about your life that was only described with pictures, will the pictures be viewed as Holy and pure? Would someone be able to support and says "she looks like Christ"? Or would they say "she looks like a piece of meat, only waiting to be devoured by starving men only wanting to have sex with her"?

"Everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard to get to them.Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”

My Experience:

My past represented my image that was soon to be transformed into a woman who portrayed the image of Christ Jesus.

In my past I've experienced all of the scenarios that was brought to the table in the beginning of this post. I was that girl who received tons of messages in response to my outer appearance that was viewed as degrading and unholy and just unfit to be called pure. In addition to that, my post and comments didn't make my image any better. I was the girl who fished for the attention of man. I was also the girl who didn't receive any interaction or attention from men at all! These situations happened at different levels of my life up. And now I've become the girl who has been made new in the Body of Christ, have been delivered and set free from my past, and represent Jesus in my language and pictures on all Social Networking websites. 

YET STILL RECEIVE THE "WHAT'S UP", "YOU CUTE", 

OR "CAN I GET TO KNOW YOU" MESSAGES!!!

I used to get suppperrrr annoyed with the inbox messages from random guys! It eventually started to agitate me and I began to delete every message that was sent to me through Facebook and even blocked them, {but it still never stopped!} then I began to ask God, why is this happening? I was like, well since I don't portray the seductive image anymore, why am I still being bothered? I then questioned my image and how I was presenting myself publically.  I looked over my images and recent posts or tweets, and even Instagram images to see if I've fallen short of representing the Kingdom and presenting the image of Christ. I asked God to cleanse me from every connection that wasn't of Him, to remove my past desires for His hearts desires, and to take away any soul tie or unclean spirit that may have attracted that same spirit! (meaning if you portray yourself as lustful, you will attract that same lustful spirit) But after taking an #ImageCheck, all that I thought was to be the reason didn't line up with the Christ like image that I have been trying to portray.

They CLEARLY saw that I have a boyfriend, and also talk about God on EVERY post I put on Facebook, in addition to that, I am completely covered in my profile pictures! But then God told me that it's not because of your appearance, it's because of Him,! My image became Holy when I turned my life to Christ and became evident through these public websites! 

Once I've been made perfect in Christ,  no matter how many times I deleted the randoms, ignored the messages, or even fuss, the light that shines through me cannot be contained. Just like flies are attracted to the fluorescent fly lights, it's as if they have to have the light, but if they get to close to it they just might get zapped! And like the Glory of the Lord that shines so brightly, if you get too close, it'll blind you! 

That's what they see in YOU, they are attracted to the anointing, "the light" that shines through you, but if they try to take it too far, God will protect you and they'll get zapped! It's because of the anointing that's upon your life! Not only are you beautiful on the outside, but the light that shines on the inside is even more beautiful! The attraction is not only towards your physical features, or outward appearance but by the anointing that glows on your face! YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL, INSIDE AND OUT! So don't be alarmed, praise God for only confirming that you are His child and others are noticing it!:)