Song of Solomon 2:7 MSG
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don't excite love, don't stir it up, until the time is ripe-and you're ready
Say you're going on a date, and you're super excited about it because it's been soooo long, too long actually to the point where you have cobwebs on your cell phone from guys not calling and asking you out! So, you get into your finest outfit and wear your favorite shoes to impress him and #turnheads because you feel that "this is the one" ..he must be right? Basically since it's been so long and you feel like you're ready for a relationship and most of all, you're ready for love! So you're finally at the date and things seems to be going great, you actually fall head over heels for the young man, you begin speaking like the Shulamite woman saying ""my lover is like an apple tree in the woods! I enjoy sitting in his shadow;his fruit is sweet to my taste" Songs of Solomon 2:3 NCV
You "fall in love" stunned by his character and physical characteristics, almost lovesick, and this goes on for maybe 6 months.... but let me warn you my Sisters in Christ, there is a time and season for everything, and just because we feel that it is time to release all of our love, time, attention, emotion, and commitment to a person doesn't mean that God is giving the same message.
In all reality, sometimes we know that it's not time, and we maybe we even know that God said that it's not time for all of that yet. But us wanting what we want and doing what we do, we do it anyways and really end up getting hurt or letting our flesh get in the way to the point where we fall into sin and not love but lust.
Here's us: "But I want to feel loved, I want to be in love, I want him to want me, I want to be touched, I want to be held at night, I want to cuddle, I hate being alone, I want this to last forever I'm tired of waiting so I'll just settle for anything at the moment!"
Slow down for a sec and listen to what Daddy is trying to tell you...
God is saying "not yet beloved, let me show you more, let me fix you, he may be the one, but let me prepare you, let me love you, make a commitment to me, love me" The physical power of love outside of marriage can cause you to compromise your spiritual promise of love in your commitment to Christ! There is a time to consummate love, and there is a time to accept God's love..
Above all, feelings of love can create intimacy that overpowers reason. We, as young, excited, and hungry women are too often in a hurry to develop an intimate relationship based on our strong FEELINGS. But "feelings" are not merely enough to support a lasting relationship. I encourage you not to force romance lest the feelings of love grow faster than the commitment needed to make love last! Patiently wait for feelings of love and commitment to develop together. You are too precious to pick up the first thing that looks or seems right, take your time, because God is taking His time with you sis, court him, don't rush into anything, because if he is "the one" he is not going to go anywhere anyways. TRUST&let that fear go!
"What God has put together, NO man can tear it apart" Mark 10:9
Meaning that if God has ordained it, NO ONE can contaminate it! Be patient, enjoy this time with the Lord so that you can be made whole, so that you can love Him unconditionally without fault or impurity! Love isn't an emotion, love is trust, love is a choice, love is a commitment, love is sacrifice, love is selflessness, love is submission, love isn't an object but a journey, love is patient, kind, not boastful or proud!
You want to be ready? Let Jesus prepare you for a love that will last forever, meet with the One who is love so that love won't be so complicated or confusing or terrible as people make it seem, love is beautiful, especially in a relationship with someone, however, love is most powerful when the time is right!
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